Experiences, Hari Katha, Little Moments, Milestones, Uncategorized

The adult in the child

It’s hard to pinpoint whether it’s the age, the gender, the birth order or his personality, Hari has a protective streak in him. You can see it loud and clear when he is with his little brother, but it is beginning to shine through when he is around me as well. It’s sweet, endearing, and heartwarming.

It was one of those evenings when we had flash flood warning with thunder and lightening. As predicted, the evening was rather messy. I was returning from dance class and as soon as I came home, Hari heaved a sigh of relief, a smile spreading on his face. “Are you ok amma? I was so worried for you with all the thunder and lightening outside. I am happy you reached home safe and we are all under the same roof.”  We gave each other the tightest of hugs that night, he out of relief from seeing me safe and sound and I from getting a glimpse of the adult in my sweet lovable child.

The construction workers were working on the kitchen window, which was a few feet away from the restroom window. I was articulating my reluctance aloud “Oh boy, looks like I just have to hold it in today till the workers leave. I don’t feel comfortable using the restroom with them working right next to the window.” A few minutes later, Hari came up to me. “Amma, the shutters are already down. There was a little see through, I stuffed our hand towel there so nobody will be able to see you from outside. You don’t have to worry now amma.”  I was pleasantly taken aback by this unexpected gesture over something that I said lightly without actually meaning it. If it had come from anyone else including Da, I would have gotten all righteous and unaccepting. I am very capable of protecting myself and problem solving, you know?  I don’t need anyone to save or protect me. But with this son of mine, I see the act for what it is; a basic instinct to protect someone you love and care. And I lapped it all up.

He is growing up, inside and out. And what a privilege it is to be such an integral part of it, seeing it unravel right in front of our eyes.


Sharing Your World

How do you like to spend a rainy day? At home, with the family, doing our own thing. That quiet presence and space in togetherness is what I would like on a rainy day.

List at least five favorite treats. (They do not have to be sugary). Theratipal, an early morning walk on a gloomy spring day, the Happier podcast, a movie with the brood at home while eating a take out, and a Jodi Picoult book.

Where’s your favorite place to take out-of-town guests? My picturesque neighborhood and the quaint town, the center park that is teeming with life when the New England weather permits. Walden pond is also one of my favorite places to take out-of-towners – proximity to nature and home, a trip that would leave your refreshed rather than fatigued from doing touristy things.

If you are trapped in an elevator, who would you want to be trapped with? My initial thought was Da. He is fairly hands and may be we will somehow fix the elevator. If not, if it is going to be my last few hours, I would rather spend it with someone who means the world to me and with whom I have had the time of my life . Then it occurred to me, poor thing, why drag the guy down with me?  So I thought I would just go solo on this one. That is , till I saw Cee’s response – be trapped with a guy who can fix the elevator. Now that’s some sensible thinking I say and I am shamelessly copying it.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? Grateful that it was a short and light work week. Grateful that we survived another intense week. However, I will confess that I went around as though (borrowing one of my favorite sermons of Da) the universe owes me a favor… you know walking around with that sense of entitlement. I cringe at that attitude and I am looking forward to correcting it, focusing on my efforts, giving it my all, and staying focused this week.

Have a good rest of the week. 

Thanks Cee for the questions.


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Here’s this week’s dose of Cee’s questions

For your main meal do you prefer sweet and sour, hot and spicy, spicy and sweet, bitter, salty, bland or other? I love food that have contrasting flavors. Blueberry bagel with veggie lite cream cheese, medium spicy bhel, tamarind rice with sweet pongal on the side… Medium spicy is my flavor preference. I can also eat bland food as long as I have some flavorful side to go with it.

Where do you hide junk when people come over? Hmmm… never thought of it as hiding but I guess dumping can be called as hiding, in which case it would be the bedroom closet. Although I think my approach is to use the visit as an opportunity to get some cleaning done rather than shoving them in the closet. Not a big fan of band-aid solutions.

What daily habit would you like to introduce to your life? So so many… my exercising and meditating habits have evaporated into thin air. I would like to bring them back in my life after my dance productions. I also want to get into the habit of daily reading.

If you were to perform in the circus, what would you do? Honestly, no idea! The very idea makes me squirm. 

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? Grateful for opportunities – for me to learn dance from the finest teachers, for Hari to be able to participate in an inter-state cricket tournament. Grateful that Da took the kids to the neighboring state for the tournament so I can focus on things on my plate. Looking forward to being focused and productive this week.


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Thanks Cee for the questions.

What goal are you working on now? Your goal can be something fun or extremely serious.  Have fun with this question.

Focus, focus and focus. Working on two big projects this month – I am participating in my dance school’s 40th anniversary dance productions and we are making additions to our house. My day job is intensive as well this month.  Plus the kids are on summer break. A perfect storm in the making. I have to stay calm and focused instead of letting my mind wander hither and thither.

What is one thing you’re glad you tried but would never do again?

Going on a helicopter ride at Niagara falls. It was so noisy and I got so claustrophobic. I detested every second of it and would prefer not to indulge in such endeavours ever in my life.

Did you choose your profession or did it choose you? I chased and chased to get the job but the current role itself was not something that I chose but I am glad it happened to me. I like what I do. 

Have you ever gotten lost? Not that I can recall. But thanks to the movies I watched as a kid, I was terrified of getting lost when I was little especially when riding by the public bus outside my home town. I would never take my eyes off my family for fear of being left behind.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? Grateful for a weekend spent in the company of good friends who accept me and my family for who we are. Looking forward to staying focused this week.

Experiences, Introspection, People, Uncategorized

Random updates

  • My cousin, the kid in our family, is getting married today. There is live streaming of his wedding.  While I may not be able to catch up due to time difference, it was a delight to catch glimpses of his nichiyadhartham video from yesterday.
  • A purposeful intentional hug says a whole lot where words fail. I am here for you. Thank you for being there for me. No words exchanged but volumes spoken.
  • The idea that has planted its roots in my head these days – kindness. Be kind, practice kindness, teach kindness. In all shapes, forms, and sizes. There is so much suffering and pain in this world. Kindness will not obliterate the suffering, but may be, just may be, it will give the strength to manage the suffering. Worth a shot, wouldn’t you agree? 
  • I read The Mothers by Brit Bennett. It was good enough to push its way through my reader’s block but not good enough to have me raving about it. What I liked about it is it humanizes motherhood – as glorified as motherhood is, mothers too come with their share of imperfections.
  • We are already in June, can you believe it?
  • I helped out with a memorial service today.  I am not able to take the family out of my mind. Please send a quiet prayer and healing vibes their way.

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Thank you Cee for this week’s questions.

How many languages do you you speak? I can speak in Tamil and English. My second language was Hindi in school but I am tongue tied when it comes to speaking in Hindi.

What are you reading, watching, listening to, eating? Reading a fiction after a long long time – The Mothers. Watching – reruns of Frasier. Listening to – hardly any music, mostly podcasts. Eating – bakshanam – adirasam and badhushah from a wedding from back home!

What was the last photo you took with your phone? Ram taking his turn to hit during his baseball game this weekend.

What is your favorite time of day? Dawn. I love love getting up at 4:30 A.M. and having the world to myself. Of course, that would mean that I would have to go to bed at 8:30 P.M., which I would glad do if I could!

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? Grateful for change in pace of routine. Took a couple of days off as we had family visiting. Looking forward to some breakthroughs for a good friend.

Experiences, Food, Gratitude, Hari Katha, Little Moments, Ram Leela, Uncategorized


Sharing the little moments from my week. 
cherry blossom

  • This week was THAT week in spring – gloomy skies, foggy, misty mornings with cherry blossoms, daffodils, and greenery all around.  Beautiful, just beautiful! I have been sneaking in walks, 5 mins here, 5 mins there, to take in all the sights and sounds, and soak in this breathtaking beauty. 
  • Hari and four other kids worked on a group project for Culture Day in Sunday school. It was a delight to watch the kids plan, prepare, collaborate and present their work. They did such a fine job!
  • Spring=Baseball in our household. Hari is part of three teams this spring and he is so pumped up about it. It’s a scheduling nightmare for us but honestly when you see the light shine in his eyes as he speaks about baseball, you just want to do the best you can to give him as much game time as possible. Who knows how long the passion will last but as long as it lasts, it must be nurtured.
  • Kerala style plum cake, have you had them? Oh I so love it and I relish every bite of it..! Better still, Hari has become part of the plum cake fan club. Nothing to beat the shared joy of looking forward to something. 
  • Now that Ram is reading on his own, he has developed a reading routine. I read a book to him and in return he reads a book to me.  Being part of this child’s reading journey has been a sheer joy!
  • Taking Ram to Take Your Child to Work Day and spending the day with him at my workplace doing arts and crafts. 

Alright tudlu for now, the weekend is just around the corner. What little moments are you celebrating this week?